T Njovu words of Wisdom

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T Njovu words of Wisdom

 

Last Sunday afternoon, I hosted five of my male church mates at my home. About ten of us men in our small Christian community were supposed to have met in November to organise the distribution of used items to vulnerable members of our community that we had contributed. The long delay was due to most of us being too busy.

Last year we had resolved to be regularly meeting as men in our St Anthony Christian Community as a way of bonding, knowing each other better and being proactive to resolving issues of our community.

We had noted that though we are active members of Kabanana St John Catholic Church, regularly meet and exchange greetings, we are not very close and do not know each other well. We wish to rekindle the spirit of a close Christian family; i.e. loving our neighbour.

We shall soon distribute the used items. Of concern now is the rising influence of darker forces in our nation as can be seen by the number of divorces and gassing.

During our discussions on the 20,000 divorces national wide reported in Saturday’s Daily Mail ( 22,000 in Times of Zambia – 15.02.2020), we concluded that in order to strengthen marriages, we recognise that the abandonment of traditional male schools (insaka/mphala) have a negative impact on the social and emotional growth of Zambian modern males.

There’s need to relink with our indigenous as well as Christian teachings. Elder men have to do more in our Christian community to remind us what marriage is about and the Christian and traditional principles of sustaining a good marriage. We hope to organise a workshop soon.

We as husbands also need to spend more time with our families in order to provide the leadership and guidance required. As men, we should take responsibility for dysfunctional and weaker families.

Problematic families lead to problematic nations. On gassing: we have to be more vigilant and revive neighbourhood watch units in our communities. We recognise that our police station lacks resources to have a presence in all parts of our township and need the voluntary help of all members of our community to enhance security in our area. It was a small group but with big intentions.

Want a better Zambia, better stand up and do something about it! John T. Njovu (Eastern Chief of Trade King’s national unity advert and Senior Elder Chinyanta of Ubuntu) Last Sunday afternoon, I hosted five of my male church mates at my home.

About ten of us men in our small Christian community were supposed to have met in November to organise the distribution of used items to vulnerable members of our community that we had contributed.

The long delay was due to most of us being too busy. Last year we had resolved to be regularly meeting as men in our St Anthony Christian Community as a way of bonding, knowing each other better and being proactive to resolving issues of our community.

We had noted that though we are active members of Kabanana St John Catholic Church, regularly meet and exchange greetings, we are not very close and do not know each other well.

We wish to rekindle the spirit of a close Christian family; i.e. loving our neighbour. We shall soon distribute the used items. Of concern now is the rising influence of darker forces in our nation as can be seen by the number of divorces and gassing.

During our discussions on the 20,000 divorces national wide reported in Saturday’s Daily Mail ( 22,000 in Times of Zambia – 15.02.2020), we concluded that in order to strengthen marriages, we recognise that the abandonment of traditional male schools (insaka/mphala) have a negative impact on the social and emotional growth of Zambian modern males.

There’s need to relink with our indigenous as well as Christian teachings. Elder men have to do more in our Christian community to remind us what marriage is about and the Christian and traditional principles of sustaining a good marriage.

We hope to organise a workshop soon. We as husbands also need to spend more time with our families in order to provide the leadership and guidance required. As men, we should take responsibility for dysfunctional and weaker families. Problematic families lead to problematic nations. On gassing: we have to be more vigilant and revive neighbourhood watch units in our communities. We recognise that our police station lacks resources to have a presence in all parts of our township and need the voluntary help of all members of our community to enhance security in our area. It was a small group but with big intentions. Want a better Zambia, better stand up and do something about it! John T. Njovu (Eastern Chief of TradeKing’s national unity advert and Senior Elder Chinyanta of Ubuntu).

Impact of gassing: Sales of vinegar and whistles have gone up and shops have now run out of stock. We all try to get home early. This is especially for those who don’t drive. The soldiers are said to start patrols at 20:00 hours with a caging truck. Drinking places are almost empty at night. No visiting long distance lovers. Your rival can sort you out by shouting “ichipondo, kawalala who gases people is here”.

Also no GBV as the hammered spouse can also shout for help that he/she is being gas attacked. In some marriages, the excuse now for denying a partner conjugal rights is not ” I am tired” but “haven’t you heard noise outside?”. Sometimes a caress will be responded by a scream from the touched partner, “there are here!” and scrambling out of bed. Darkness is time of great dread. When a cat is heard walking on the roof and meowing, the whole family wakes and sits up until morning. Could a gasser turn into a cat? How come there’s no network when you want to call the police and neighbours? Witchcraft at play? Prayers and rays of dawn are a relief. We all now are in an irritable mood due to dread of nights and lack of sleep. Please don’t go out of your home too early. You may be mistaken for one of them. When a suspect is caught…. Lucky if you feel the urine running down your legs when you’re hit and they let you go free. Others sometimes shit and don’t ever return to tell the tale of meeting mad mobs